In a country where we have so many choices, can’t we all agree to always choose ourselves? What do I mean by this? We are fortunate to live in a place where we have access to what seems like aisles and aisles of brand choices; everything from food, to clothing, to products, and everything in between. There is no shortage of “things” to choose from. As a result, we live in a state of compare and contrast with even the smallest decisions we make. This thought process becomes part of us and how we live our lives. We start to compare ourselves or our lives to others wondering if we’re enough; should we be doing more, achieving more, obtaining more.
Before I married and had my daughter, I honestly couldn’t relate to this thought process I’m highlighting. I had a successful career in technology, I was financially independent, traveled and felt confident about my choices and who I was as well as who I wasn’t. However, after becoming a wife and mom, the comparing and contrasting slowly crept into my day to day. Everything from breastfeeding, to baby milestones (crawling, walking, speaking, etc.) came into question. Instagram of course doesn’t help because some moms seemed to look so pulled together while juggling more children than me and what seemed to look like flourishing businesses. Their life and story looks amazing. The operative word here is “LOOKS.” They may very well have an amazing life but we’re all vulnerable, we all have great days, and not so great days. We all wish for something more at certain times in our lives. This is all very normal.
We are all very unique individuals with a different perspective or approach to how we show up and live our lives. While that well pulled together Instagram mom may look different from me, as moms, I’m sure we have a similar goal which is to raise strong, happy and compassionate children but how we do it could be very different.
While you begin down the path of your career journey, absorb all the advice you are given, educate yourself, tell YOUR story, know YOUR value and most importantly, be YOU because you are fabulous!